Thursday, December 16, 2004

People Patches

I have a social theory that goes something like this:

People need patches just like operating systems. Sometimes a person or a situation will come along that you are not currently equipped to handle. Maybe they have a strange personality or have difficulty communicating, or maybe it is a situation that you have never encountered before. These situations require that you install a patch to handle this new situation or deal with the person. The trick is figuring out what that patch is.

Before you install the patch you have to evaluate the situation and ask yourself, "What do I need in order to deal with this?" If you can answer that question and act accordingly, then you have successfully installed the patch and you can move on.

I am also convinced that some people are not capable of patching themselves. Generally speaking, no one else can apply the patch for them. For example, we all know someone who, no matter how hard they try, they can't get along with a particular personality type. Or another example would be people who just want to stay in their own comfortable job and not expand into new situations or opportunities.

Really what I am talking about here is the ability to learn and adapt to new people and new situations. If you can do this you can deal with almost anyone effectively. It takes a certain level of mental and emotional flexibility and a high degree of maturity. Something to work on.

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